Life Reimagined

16 suggestions for midlife


On aging well 

  1. If you feel the midlife blues, remember that everyone else does, and your most joyous years are ahead of you.

  2. Aim for meaning and not happiness, and you will find both.

  3. Ask yourself regularly: How will I use these glorious days for the best purpose?

  4. The mid-aged brain is a thing of wonder, it can learn any new trick if you challenge it.

On living exuberantly

  1. At every stage of life, you should be a rookie at something

  2. Midlife can be like Knsas, long and flat. Creating a goal will energize your days.

On the power of thought

  1. It’s harder to hurt when you are laughing

  2. Take trouble in stride: a few setbacks are just what the doctor ordered.

  3. Watch your thoughts: your thinking shapes your experience.

On doing good work

  1. If possible, go for Plan A. And it’s possible more often than not.

  2. Pivoting on your strengths beats starting from scratch.

  3. Redefine success according to your values, not those of the rest of the world.

On choosing what matters most

      13. Pay attention: the biggest threat to seasoned marriages is mutual neglect.

     14. Do you value that relationship? Then cut him some slack. 

15. It’s dangerous at the periphery.

16. As George Vaillant noted, happiness is love. Full stop.

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